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Tammi C. Walker

How Our Excuses Mask Our Fear

Fear is a daunting emotion.  The stranger fact about fear is that it holds no merit.  I am in my 6th year of life coaching and it has taught me a lot about people and where they are in life.  When I meet a client, pretty quickly I can tell if they are ready to change their life or not by the words they say.  If I am making suggestions with my client to make changes in their life and they retort back, “Well I would if I could but…” I already know what is likely to take place. Nothing.  I say this because people who are ready to make the leap, ready to change their life and sick and tired of being sick and tired, will not make one single excuse.  No pain does equal no gain.  Let me tell you about me right now and I am damn worn out.  I am in school with 3 classes and I am not really feeling this semester. I have an internship at a shelter. It is unpaid too.  Some days the shelter is not the easiest place to be.  I ask myself am I on the right track? Is this worth it?  Well guess what in too deep. I have invested too much money and I want to follow my passion of helping to make the world a better place, I have to press on.  I am being honest here, it has not been easy.  Actually the last week was rather tiring and I have not felt my best physically.  Taking the easy road does not serve us well.  It is a boring and safe life.  If it is something you really want to do, get out and do it.  Here are some tips below:


1.     What is the truth behind the fear that you have? Think it out and write it out. Deal with your fear.

2.      Talk less and do more. If it is something you want to do, by all means necessary just do it. Get on the internet and sign up for the class. The more you think about it the more you won’t do it.  I took an acting class years ago. It was very complicated and it really did not do much for me. I did not enjoy it as much as I thought I would. But at least I gave it a try.

3.      Playing it safe does not work.  It makes life boring, dull and complacent. Try something different and do something different. Stepping out of your comfort zone gives you power, strength and it will raise your self-esteem.

4.      Do it alone.  I don’t depend on anyone to do anything with me.  I do it alone. I have been like this since a teen.  It is not anyone’s responsibility to go anywhere with you.  Get out and do it!

5.      If you have a great talent, want to advocate for a great cause, have time to help someone, go for it.  In this world, we are beat over the head with negative crap. The politics are wacky, media is strange and crime is on the surge. We need talented people that will give us greatness. We need advocates that believe in something.  If all of us can do just a little we will have done a lot for this world. 


As always, I believe in you.  I know you can do it.  Why? Because you are amazingly great!

Tammi C. Walker, Life Coach and Friend